Wednesday, December 24, 2008
What a day
Yesterday was really a very trying day. Firstly and most importantly S was unwell. She had a runny nose from day before and it got much worse yesterday. Poor S, she didn't sleep well day before night, was having difficulty breathing due to a blocked nose, and the flem problem got worse because she threw up yesterday's breakfast (three times now in 2 days that she's thrown up an entire meal). I got paranoid and insisted on giving her breakfast again myself. Secondly i as down with a bad cold so have been taking medicines continously. Then office work has really got strenous and am not sure how I am going to meet the deadlines since i'm on leave next week. Related to the week there's tons of packing to be done. And lastly, the last straw on my back- both my maids decided to quit on me- the cook and the girl who helps around the house and plays with S. They are both friends and have been ganging up on the baby maid and firing her behind my back, When I got to know about this I told them that this is unacceptable behaviour and if they have any problems with her and the way she is handling the child it needs to be escalated to me and not for them to step in. They did not like it- thought i would take their side and conspired and yesterday told me they are leaving. I was pretty upset last night-so many maids have quit, i wonder whether i am too strict or what is wrong. Furtehr the hubby is on one of his foreign jaunts and unable to help. Overall was in pretty bad shape yesterday, hope all tursn out ok
Waiting for the hols!
Now that I have started working full time (have been into office everyday, full day since Dec 15th) I can’t wait for the holidays, so that I get to spend some time with S. Otherwise the days are chok-a block , get up at 7:30 am with S, give her morning milk, then play with her till about 8:45 am, then get all S stuff ready , prepare her breakfast, give it to the maid to give S, get ready and leave for office by 9:30 am- get back at 6 pm on a good day and 7:30 pm on a bad day. Take S to park if I get back by 6, then her bath, her evening snooze (during which time I get her dinner in shape) then her night meal, a hurried dinner and pplaying with her till 10:30 p.m., then her night milk and finally sleep time at 11 pm (the only time S actually goes off to sleep without us having to vigorously rock her to sleep). Then sundry activities like boiling water, sterilizing, catching up on the days news/ surfing tv if in a bad mood etc and off to sleep at around 12 p.m. Some nights S gets up 2-3 times at night, not for a feed but general fussiness, then I have to get up, part her back to sleep, and if I am too lazy put her between me and the hubby and she will snuggle up to us and sleep. My favorite part of the day is between 6 am and 7:30 am when she has been brought to our bed and is snuggled upto us and fast asleep. Of course now with working full time I get no naps during the day so have to make do with the sleep I get at night- which is anywhere between 61/2 to 71/2 – not bad do I hear you say- I agree, but if it is disturbed 2-3 times and I don’t get back to sleep that easily, then I feel sleepy right through the day.
Anyway am on leave next week- sis-in-law is getting married plus I want to go home for some pampering. I;m really looking forward to spending time with S (though most of the time that involves running after her when she goes exploring the house-really she has an attention span of 2 mins for all her toys/books/cuddles from me etc etc); getting some sleep in the afternoon and some exercise (I have really got to lose the pregnancy flab, no excuse after 101/2 months). I need to start potty training S as well, get her hair into some shape- it stands up now!!, start talking much more to her- all things I have been putting off saying no time. I wonder how moms who donlt have support of baby maids/their mums (my mum has been here since I started working full time) manage-hats off to them.
S has become very naughty now- she has learnt how to throw things from our balcony into the downstairs balcony. She has also starting screaming if she doesn't get what she wants that particular instance. My baby is growing up!
Anyway am on leave next week- sis-in-law is getting married plus I want to go home for some pampering. I;m really looking forward to spending time with S (though most of the time that involves running after her when she goes exploring the house-really she has an attention span of 2 mins for all her toys/books/cuddles from me etc etc); getting some sleep in the afternoon and some exercise (I have really got to lose the pregnancy flab, no excuse after 101/2 months). I need to start potty training S as well, get her hair into some shape- it stands up now!!, start talking much more to her- all things I have been putting off saying no time. I wonder how moms who donlt have support of baby maids/their mums (my mum has been here since I started working full time) manage-hats off to them.
S has become very naughty now- she has learnt how to throw things from our balcony into the downstairs balcony. She has also starting screaming if she doesn't get what she wants that particular instance. My baby is growing up!
Friday, December 12, 2008
A working mom
It is with mixed feelings that I write this post. Over the last few days I have relinquished feeding S to the two maids and have just been hanging around the house to supervise them. Otherwise I try not to step in while they are feeding her, playing with her, putting her to sleep or consoling her when she’s cranky .Its really tough, especially when she’s cranky and crying – S gets bored pretty fast, her threshold for any toy including her favourite one is 2 mins and after that S wants to do something new. And the maids have a tough time keeping her entertained. Especially in the afternoon when she’s awake for about 3 hours at a stretch, and after about 1 hour of playing they have run out of new ideas, are tired (being used to a nap while she’s sleeping) and S is in no mood to go to sleep. Today for instance S got up from her morning nap only at 1:45 in the afternoon and I knew she would not go back to sleep before 4-4:30. The maids were ok with feeding and playing with her till about 3. After that she was continuously cranky, finally around 3:30 I stepped in, played with her for first time and put her to sleep.
Anyway I am meandering I am writing this post to get clear in my own mind the merits or working or being an at home mom and how best to handle the work situation.
I had been working for 8 years before S was born. I was quite career focused and was pretty confident that I would return to work post maternity leave of 6 months and S would be well looked after by a good maid. Well I turned out to be completely wrong!! Firstly after S was born I became very possessive of her and was (and still am) convinced that no one could look after her as well as I could. That took care of getting a maid to look after her situation. Also compounded by the fact that I could not find a good maid whom I could trust to look after her in my absence. This got me to thinking on what I should do, whether I should get back to work or not, when etc etc and these are the thoughts I had
Pros of working
Have been working now for 8 years and frankly not sure how I would pass my time at home if not working, I don’t have any hobbies, or a friends circle to meet up with during the weekdays and once S and her siblings (hopefully in the plural) become big and go to school full day what would I do?
We have got used to the financial freedom and privileges of a dual income. While we would have a pretty decent lifestyle on hubby’s salary alone, we would have to think twice about our foreign holidays, dinners out, splurge shopping and holidays home –something we have been used to for some time now. Luckily our home loan is more or less paid off, so I am not bound to work, but we want to secure our children’s future and make sure they are very comfortably off which would be easier if I continue to work for some more time as well (especially since I am currently in a high paying job)
Thirdly, and this is not the most important factor in my mind, but I have studied very hard (getting into one of the best management institutes) and also at my job to get to where I am. If I take off for some time am not sure I would get back to my current level, and would that be a waste of my education?
However in my mind the negatives far outweigh the positives, being ….
Looking after the baby: My in laws and my parents don’t stay in the same city as me, and neither are there any close relatives here. The option on expiry of maternity leave would be to leave S (at 6 months) either at a crèche, or with a trusted maid at home. I tried to find out about crèches but they are not so popular here since most working women have in laws or parents in the same city. I could find only one crèche which accepts 6 months + babies and was not very happy with it. They have a small dingy room for < 1 year babies which mattresses on the floor and a 2:1 maid to child ratio (not too bad). However the room is very small and outside there are older kids running around so don’t think the smaller babies would be let out to that area. To keep S confined in one room for 8-10 hours is pretty unfair, especially when I have tried to take her to the park for a stroll everyday since she was 2 months old!! Anyway I booked the crèche as a last option and decided to try out the maid situation. From month 4 itself I was looking for good maids – but I was just not getting anyone good- we must have gone through some 6-7 maids- some of them pretended to be ill and left the same day, one had a husband having a heart attack (who btw had left her years ago we were made to understand earlier) while another had a close relative passing away (a different topic is why can’t maids just say they don’t want to work with us , we are not going to force anyone to stay back, instead of lying about other people’s well being) while we ourselves were not happy with a couple of them. So literally just as I was settling with one maid some problem would come up and we would have to start the search for someone new. In summary unable to find a good maid to leave S with, and also me not having the trust in them to look after S well
Upbringing of the child :Here I differentiate between looking after the baby physically to bringing up a child, where you play with the child, engage with them to make them understand the world around them and keep them mentally stimulated. This I think a maid just cannot do -I have now left S with the maids (though I am at home) for about a week and the hubby and I have noticed that S is unhappy with them. They are able to feed her (thank God or that would be a major concern)- in fact faster than me (don’t know why she plays up so much with me); put her to sleep and play with her for some time, but she gets bored with them very fast and they are not able to think of new things to engage her. I don’t mind whatever language they speak to her in, but they should talk intelligent and interesting things which unfortunately they don’t. So what typically happens is after about 10 mins of playing with them S will come running to me or the hubby (he also takes a day off every week to stay with S so I can go into work) and will refuse to go back to them. I don’t blame the maids- if they are not able to engage the child, they are not, as parents we will always be best able to play and educate our child. I only worry what would happen if S is left the whole day with them- will she become depressed, will she be cranky and clingy when I get home (I know a girl who stopped working since the child would be crying as soon as she got home and would cling to her, but another girl who continued to work saying the child was otherwise happy but only clingy when she got back), or will it be worse and affect her overall upbringing. I also heard that the first 2 years are the most important in the brain development of the child- do you want to leave them with a maid at that time? I agree with this, I have seen that S has started talking/babbling more when she is with my mother or mother in law who talk to her and tell her stories- the only thing she has picked up is Ka a short form for kawua (crow)
Spending time with S – The time I spend at work would be time not spent with S. Why would I want to miss out on her first steps, her first Mama, her squeals of delight while playing and exploring new things, time at the park, cuddly time before sleeping- again a tough choice…is my temperament suited to staying at home and spending all my time with her, or would I be a better mother if I went to work and spent quality time with S
Anyway all these issues and thoughts and what are the options really to strike a balance between the pros and the negatives?
Options
Work from home – to my mind this is the ideal one. I don’t have a business generating/client facing role and having largely a desk job can work quite effectively from home. I would definetly need help to look after the baby as I’m supposed to be working, but I would be able to a) sneak in some time to take S to the park/play with her for sometime during the day which would not be possible if I was working from office full time and more importantly b)I could oversee the maids who look after S so that I know she is beign well looked after. The main problem with this is that my office does not have a work from home policy so my boss had to get a deviation approved from me. Also I had asked for 6 months work from home, but boss finally agreed to 3 months with rollover (if all ok ) for another 3 months. Anyway I am not at a stage to argue so will take what I get. The other problem linked to the office not having a work from home policy is that the system is not geared to handle it- people keep having conference calls at short notices, I get requests to come into office urgently (I can’t do that since I didn’t have the setup for maids to independtly look after S till very recently), people want to have long discussions which are best done face to face, my whole team is in office and everytime they meet to discuss they have to dial me in (I think they can adjust this much, but obviously others don’t always share my view) and of course the jibes from others- oh how long is your extended holiday, when do you actually plan to get back to work- I am quite insensitive to these now, if I have to get what I want (getting to stay at home with S and still have a career) I can put up with some stupid people’s comments.
Send S to parents – the other option is to send S to my parents place till she is big enough to come back here and go to a crèche- maybe till she is 1 year 2 months or so. One of my colleagues actually did this- either her mom was staying with her or she sent her daughter to her mom’s place till she was 1 year old. I am not so keen on this because a) it is too much responsibility on my parents and w0uld restrict their lifestyle- they keep traveling and if they had to look after S full time they would not be able to travel and b) I want to be part of S growing up through all the stages- I feel strongly and maybe many others don’t share this view, but you should be responsible for and an integral part of your child growing up- how can you miss out on the first steps, the first words , the first tantrums (yes that has started today, let me record the date December 12th) –soon they will grow up and be independent and then you will wonder where the time went.
Work from parents city- the other option which occurs to me from time to time is to take a temporary transfer at work to my mum’s city. Earlier our team was spread out over the country, and I think my boss would be ok for this on a temporary basis, but the main reason I am not keen on this is that I don’t want the hubby to miss out on S growing up. I was anyway at my mum’s place for 3 months from the time S was 11/2 months to 41/2 months, but now S is much bigger and she does new things everyday which I don’t want the hubby to miss out on, also she enjoys playing with him. Of course when I am in a bad mood, after fighting with the hubby I threaten to move to my mom’s place temporarily (quite childish of me)
Convince in laws to move to our city- to my mind this would be an ideal option. A lot of my friends are quite surprised at this- how will you get along with your in-laws, you are so fussy about S won’t you fight with them about how to bring her up. My main argument is, ultimately I will have to get back to work full time, and then the option is for S to go to a crèche or to be looked after at home by maids. I don’t have control over what the maids do behind my back, and definetly no control over what happens at the crèche. And I am sure my mom-in-law would do a far better job of bringing up S than any crèche /maids. So I am willing to let go control and bite my tongue and request them to move to our city so that S is well looked after. Also my in laws would stay in a different flat so we would not cramp each others style.
Anyway I was not lucky enough to be able to convince the in-laws to move here. And my boss ultimately did not agree to rollover my work from home-can’t blame him, the credit crisis has made our job quite stressful and he needs to have daily updates from the team which becomes slightly difficult to accommodate me on the phone every time. However he didn’t say you have to come to work everyday, he said try to come in as much as possible (I know that means everyday). So I am currently going into office whenever I can, have requested mom-in law and mom to come for 1 month each in Jan and Feb till S is 1 year 1 month and plan to put her in daycare for ½ day and maid looking after her ½ day post that. Keep fingers crossed!!
Anyway I am meandering I am writing this post to get clear in my own mind the merits or working or being an at home mom and how best to handle the work situation.
I had been working for 8 years before S was born. I was quite career focused and was pretty confident that I would return to work post maternity leave of 6 months and S would be well looked after by a good maid. Well I turned out to be completely wrong!! Firstly after S was born I became very possessive of her and was (and still am) convinced that no one could look after her as well as I could. That took care of getting a maid to look after her situation. Also compounded by the fact that I could not find a good maid whom I could trust to look after her in my absence. This got me to thinking on what I should do, whether I should get back to work or not, when etc etc and these are the thoughts I had
Pros of working
Have been working now for 8 years and frankly not sure how I would pass my time at home if not working, I don’t have any hobbies, or a friends circle to meet up with during the weekdays and once S and her siblings (hopefully in the plural) become big and go to school full day what would I do?
We have got used to the financial freedom and privileges of a dual income. While we would have a pretty decent lifestyle on hubby’s salary alone, we would have to think twice about our foreign holidays, dinners out, splurge shopping and holidays home –something we have been used to for some time now. Luckily our home loan is more or less paid off, so I am not bound to work, but we want to secure our children’s future and make sure they are very comfortably off which would be easier if I continue to work for some more time as well (especially since I am currently in a high paying job)
Thirdly, and this is not the most important factor in my mind, but I have studied very hard (getting into one of the best management institutes) and also at my job to get to where I am. If I take off for some time am not sure I would get back to my current level, and would that be a waste of my education?
However in my mind the negatives far outweigh the positives, being ….
Looking after the baby: My in laws and my parents don’t stay in the same city as me, and neither are there any close relatives here. The option on expiry of maternity leave would be to leave S (at 6 months) either at a crèche, or with a trusted maid at home. I tried to find out about crèches but they are not so popular here since most working women have in laws or parents in the same city. I could find only one crèche which accepts 6 months + babies and was not very happy with it. They have a small dingy room for < 1 year babies which mattresses on the floor and a 2:1 maid to child ratio (not too bad). However the room is very small and outside there are older kids running around so don’t think the smaller babies would be let out to that area. To keep S confined in one room for 8-10 hours is pretty unfair, especially when I have tried to take her to the park for a stroll everyday since she was 2 months old!! Anyway I booked the crèche as a last option and decided to try out the maid situation. From month 4 itself I was looking for good maids – but I was just not getting anyone good- we must have gone through some 6-7 maids- some of them pretended to be ill and left the same day, one had a husband having a heart attack (who btw had left her years ago we were made to understand earlier) while another had a close relative passing away (a different topic is why can’t maids just say they don’t want to work with us , we are not going to force anyone to stay back, instead of lying about other people’s well being) while we ourselves were not happy with a couple of them. So literally just as I was settling with one maid some problem would come up and we would have to start the search for someone new. In summary unable to find a good maid to leave S with, and also me not having the trust in them to look after S well
Upbringing of the child :Here I differentiate between looking after the baby physically to bringing up a child, where you play with the child, engage with them to make them understand the world around them and keep them mentally stimulated. This I think a maid just cannot do -I have now left S with the maids (though I am at home) for about a week and the hubby and I have noticed that S is unhappy with them. They are able to feed her (thank God or that would be a major concern)- in fact faster than me (don’t know why she plays up so much with me); put her to sleep and play with her for some time, but she gets bored with them very fast and they are not able to think of new things to engage her. I don’t mind whatever language they speak to her in, but they should talk intelligent and interesting things which unfortunately they don’t. So what typically happens is after about 10 mins of playing with them S will come running to me or the hubby (he also takes a day off every week to stay with S so I can go into work) and will refuse to go back to them. I don’t blame the maids- if they are not able to engage the child, they are not, as parents we will always be best able to play and educate our child. I only worry what would happen if S is left the whole day with them- will she become depressed, will she be cranky and clingy when I get home (I know a girl who stopped working since the child would be crying as soon as she got home and would cling to her, but another girl who continued to work saying the child was otherwise happy but only clingy when she got back), or will it be worse and affect her overall upbringing. I also heard that the first 2 years are the most important in the brain development of the child- do you want to leave them with a maid at that time? I agree with this, I have seen that S has started talking/babbling more when she is with my mother or mother in law who talk to her and tell her stories- the only thing she has picked up is Ka a short form for kawua (crow)
Spending time with S – The time I spend at work would be time not spent with S. Why would I want to miss out on her first steps, her first Mama, her squeals of delight while playing and exploring new things, time at the park, cuddly time before sleeping- again a tough choice…is my temperament suited to staying at home and spending all my time with her, or would I be a better mother if I went to work and spent quality time with S
Anyway all these issues and thoughts and what are the options really to strike a balance between the pros and the negatives?
Options
Work from home – to my mind this is the ideal one. I don’t have a business generating/client facing role and having largely a desk job can work quite effectively from home. I would definetly need help to look after the baby as I’m supposed to be working, but I would be able to a) sneak in some time to take S to the park/play with her for sometime during the day which would not be possible if I was working from office full time and more importantly b)I could oversee the maids who look after S so that I know she is beign well looked after. The main problem with this is that my office does not have a work from home policy so my boss had to get a deviation approved from me. Also I had asked for 6 months work from home, but boss finally agreed to 3 months with rollover (if all ok ) for another 3 months. Anyway I am not at a stage to argue so will take what I get. The other problem linked to the office not having a work from home policy is that the system is not geared to handle it- people keep having conference calls at short notices, I get requests to come into office urgently (I can’t do that since I didn’t have the setup for maids to independtly look after S till very recently), people want to have long discussions which are best done face to face, my whole team is in office and everytime they meet to discuss they have to dial me in (I think they can adjust this much, but obviously others don’t always share my view) and of course the jibes from others- oh how long is your extended holiday, when do you actually plan to get back to work- I am quite insensitive to these now, if I have to get what I want (getting to stay at home with S and still have a career) I can put up with some stupid people’s comments.
Send S to parents – the other option is to send S to my parents place till she is big enough to come back here and go to a crèche- maybe till she is 1 year 2 months or so. One of my colleagues actually did this- either her mom was staying with her or she sent her daughter to her mom’s place till she was 1 year old. I am not so keen on this because a) it is too much responsibility on my parents and w0uld restrict their lifestyle- they keep traveling and if they had to look after S full time they would not be able to travel and b) I want to be part of S growing up through all the stages- I feel strongly and maybe many others don’t share this view, but you should be responsible for and an integral part of your child growing up- how can you miss out on the first steps, the first words , the first tantrums (yes that has started today, let me record the date December 12th) –soon they will grow up and be independent and then you will wonder where the time went.
Work from parents city- the other option which occurs to me from time to time is to take a temporary transfer at work to my mum’s city. Earlier our team was spread out over the country, and I think my boss would be ok for this on a temporary basis, but the main reason I am not keen on this is that I don’t want the hubby to miss out on S growing up. I was anyway at my mum’s place for 3 months from the time S was 11/2 months to 41/2 months, but now S is much bigger and she does new things everyday which I don’t want the hubby to miss out on, also she enjoys playing with him. Of course when I am in a bad mood, after fighting with the hubby I threaten to move to my mom’s place temporarily (quite childish of me)
Convince in laws to move to our city- to my mind this would be an ideal option. A lot of my friends are quite surprised at this- how will you get along with your in-laws, you are so fussy about S won’t you fight with them about how to bring her up. My main argument is, ultimately I will have to get back to work full time, and then the option is for S to go to a crèche or to be looked after at home by maids. I don’t have control over what the maids do behind my back, and definetly no control over what happens at the crèche. And I am sure my mom-in-law would do a far better job of bringing up S than any crèche /maids. So I am willing to let go control and bite my tongue and request them to move to our city so that S is well looked after. Also my in laws would stay in a different flat so we would not cramp each others style.
Anyway I was not lucky enough to be able to convince the in-laws to move here. And my boss ultimately did not agree to rollover my work from home-can’t blame him, the credit crisis has made our job quite stressful and he needs to have daily updates from the team which becomes slightly difficult to accommodate me on the phone every time. However he didn’t say you have to come to work everyday, he said try to come in as much as possible (I know that means everyday). So I am currently going into office whenever I can, have requested mom-in law and mom to come for 1 month each in Jan and Feb till S is 1 year 1 month and plan to put her in daycare for ½ day and maid looking after her ½ day post that. Keep fingers crossed!!
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
These are a few of my favourite things
These are a few of my favourite things
Chewing on anything except my teether- remote, mobile, knob on shoe cupboard, sandal (!!)
Opening all drawers
Pulling at wires
Climbing into or on top of my toy box
running to the door when the bell rings
running to the balcony window and banging on it especially if someone is outside
shooing away the birds (mummy’s favourite too)
yummy rasam rice
walking dragging inky and dinky alongwith me (my two twin teddy bears)
running after beach balls in the park
any small speck on the floor
paper, fun to tear and yummy to eat
in the car with mummy and daddy, love to pull on the handle and jump up and down
water in my sippy, gimme more…
sleeping in ac
running after the blue pail with the dirty water used for wiping the floor- mummy has a tough time running after me or moving it away
running to the door everytime it rings
posing for the camera- am I not pretty!!!
looking at my own pictures, again and again…who wants to see someone else’s photos? –also showing everyone my photo on the fridge door
kaua (crow) and kaboo (khabutar-pigeon) my special favourites, everything is ka
eda- that’s my short name for myself
These are not such favourites
Baby foods forced by mummy
Sleeping- I cry before sleeping every time, there are so many more interesting things to do other than sleeping
Sitting in the pram- hey its so much more fun to crawl or walk
don’t like some interaction with other kids where they pull my hair (ouch), or my eye (double ouch)- mummy why don’t you get me my own beach ball
plain vegetables- why don’t you have them yourself instead of giving them to me?
Chewing on anything except my teether- remote, mobile, knob on shoe cupboard, sandal (!!)
Opening all drawers
Pulling at wires
Climbing into or on top of my toy box
running to the door when the bell rings
running to the balcony window and banging on it especially if someone is outside
shooing away the birds (mummy’s favourite too)
yummy rasam rice
walking dragging inky and dinky alongwith me (my two twin teddy bears)
running after beach balls in the park
any small speck on the floor
paper, fun to tear and yummy to eat
in the car with mummy and daddy, love to pull on the handle and jump up and down
water in my sippy, gimme more…
sleeping in ac
running after the blue pail with the dirty water used for wiping the floor- mummy has a tough time running after me or moving it away
running to the door everytime it rings
posing for the camera- am I not pretty!!!
looking at my own pictures, again and again…who wants to see someone else’s photos? –also showing everyone my photo on the fridge door
kaua (crow) and kaboo (khabutar-pigeon) my special favourites, everything is ka
eda- that’s my short name for myself
These are not such favourites
Baby foods forced by mummy
Sleeping- I cry before sleeping every time, there are so many more interesting things to do other than sleeping
Sitting in the pram- hey its so much more fun to crawl or walk
don’t like some interaction with other kids where they pull my hair (ouch), or my eye (double ouch)- mummy why don’t you get me my own beach ball
plain vegetables- why don’t you have them yourself instead of giving them to me?
Monday, November 3, 2008
My first tooth and first step
Diwali week was a hectic week. Not only did S meet both her Ajjas and Ajjis, travel 3 times by plane, light her first sparkler, meet three bow wows and a whole host of sundry cousins and aunties/uncles- she also cut her first tooth and took her first independent steps.
We felt S has been teething for the last 3 months- she was drooling a lot and kept biting stuff. Her gums felt hard and we could see some white beneath. But the actual poking out of the tooth was quite sudden. It was preceded by a whole evening of crying. We were flying from my mom's place to my in-laws place. The last time at the airport (4 days prior) S was a gem- she sat in her pram and played on the flight and went off to sleep after playing and woke up fresh when the flight landed. This time was a nightmare. S started crying half an hour before the flight, refused to drink milk, kept crying on the flight, slept for 10 mins, then again cried after landing, cried all the way o my in-laws place and again till 2 in the night. Luckily next morning she was ok, but I was not sure why she was crying- we had been giving her a lot of adult food in my mom's place since she was refusing to eat her normal food (she also had a cold so my thought was something solid is better than nothing) so maybe she had a stomach ache, also the milk i tried to feed her at the airport was very hot so maybe she burnt her tongue (but this would not lead to her crying at 2 in the night) or maybe her cold was getting worse. Mostly looks like it was teething pains because next day she was fine and pop came out the pearly tooth. Her sweet toothless smile will get filled now so we are busy taking lots of snaps of the toothless smile while it is there!
At her Ajji's (my mom) place S took her first independent step without holding anything. We have a large living room cum dining room with a low centre table in the middle of the living room so S had a lot of space to crawl and explore. She loved going round and round the centre table and occasionally would meander off to a nearby sofa. I missed her first step :-( but it was on one of these movements from the centre table to the sofa that she let go of the centre table and walked towards the sofa. In her other Ajji's (hubby's mom) place S took her first two independent steps. The date was October 31st and the time was 10:30 p.m. (there recorded !!) and I was there to enjoy it. The hubby placed S in the middle of the room and called her towards him. S took two steps and reached him. We all applauded and Ajji made special sweet to celebrate the next day.
Now S is very good at walking , literally running holding onto the sofa/walls. I hold one of her hands and take her walking around the room. She is still hesitant to take steps on her own and prefers to crawl. But since she gets upto so much mischief (already broken two showpieces) with crawling that I am quite ok to wait for her to master walking.
We felt S has been teething for the last 3 months- she was drooling a lot and kept biting stuff. Her gums felt hard and we could see some white beneath. But the actual poking out of the tooth was quite sudden. It was preceded by a whole evening of crying. We were flying from my mom's place to my in-laws place. The last time at the airport (4 days prior) S was a gem- she sat in her pram and played on the flight and went off to sleep after playing and woke up fresh when the flight landed. This time was a nightmare. S started crying half an hour before the flight, refused to drink milk, kept crying on the flight, slept for 10 mins, then again cried after landing, cried all the way o my in-laws place and again till 2 in the night. Luckily next morning she was ok, but I was not sure why she was crying- we had been giving her a lot of adult food in my mom's place since she was refusing to eat her normal food (she also had a cold so my thought was something solid is better than nothing) so maybe she had a stomach ache, also the milk i tried to feed her at the airport was very hot so maybe she burnt her tongue (but this would not lead to her crying at 2 in the night) or maybe her cold was getting worse. Mostly looks like it was teething pains because next day she was fine and pop came out the pearly tooth. Her sweet toothless smile will get filled now so we are busy taking lots of snaps of the toothless smile while it is there!
At her Ajji's (my mom) place S took her first independent step without holding anything. We have a large living room cum dining room with a low centre table in the middle of the living room so S had a lot of space to crawl and explore. She loved going round and round the centre table and occasionally would meander off to a nearby sofa. I missed her first step :-( but it was on one of these movements from the centre table to the sofa that she let go of the centre table and walked towards the sofa. In her other Ajji's (hubby's mom) place S took her first two independent steps. The date was October 31st and the time was 10:30 p.m. (there recorded !!) and I was there to enjoy it. The hubby placed S in the middle of the room and called her towards him. S took two steps and reached him. We all applauded and Ajji made special sweet to celebrate the next day.
Now S is very good at walking , literally running holding onto the sofa/walls. I hold one of her hands and take her walking around the room. She is still hesitant to take steps on her own and prefers to crawl. But since she gets upto so much mischief (already broken two showpieces) with crawling that I am quite ok to wait for her to master walking.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
New friends
Yesterday for the Diwali party we had invited (rather my parents had invited) two couples with small babies. There was N who was 2 years and 1 month and M who was 20 months. S was in a bad mood (her cold is getting worse due to the bad weather) and first she didn't interact at all with N and M and was clinging to her Pappa (yes she has started calling the hubby Pappa while Mom is still Caa like all other creatures). Then after some time she settled down and sat down between N and M. Now M is an aggressive girl and immediately ran over to S and pulled her eye. S was quite stumped (obviously she has not been beaten up before) and started howling immediately. After some time she settled down and started playing with N. N is much less aggressive (btw we have an interesting situation wherein the girl is aggressive and beats up the boy and the boy is quite peaceful and more interested in hugging and kissing) and they spent some time playing with the bells on the sofa. Rather N was standing on top of the sofa and S was wacthing in open mouthed wonder while playing with the bells on the sofa.
Then M came and hugged S as a form of apology. S was quite stumped with the hug but continued to ignore M (think she was quite upset with the eye pulling incident). After some time we went upstairs for dinner and the 3 kids sat and watched TV for about 5 mins then ignored the TV and played with the toys my mom had bought.
S had burnt some sparklers with the hubby in the morning and was not disturbed by all the noise
All in all a nice first Diwali for S
Then M came and hugged S as a form of apology. S was quite stumped with the hug but continued to ignore M (think she was quite upset with the eye pulling incident). After some time we went upstairs for dinner and the 3 kids sat and watched TV for about 5 mins then ignored the TV and played with the toys my mom had bought.
S had burnt some sparklers with the hubby in the morning and was not disturbed by all the noise
All in all a nice first Diwali for S
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Happy Diwali
Its S first Diwali and we have come to my parents place to celebrate it. Having a Diwali party at home and have invited two couples with babies to celebrate alongwith S. These babies are a year older than S but we wanted to have some kids around. S really likes interacting with other children the first day we got here my cousin's son was at home, and even though he is 8 years older to S she was watching him continously and even crawling around/cruising around after him. Of course she managed to hit him on the eye with her fish toy but nevertheless both of them enjoyed playing with each other.
We have taken a week off and going to both parents house for 4 days each. And a well deserved holiday it is. Last month has been really stressful- first S was unwell for about a week, loss of appetite, high fever; then I got tonsilitis and was completely out of sorts for a week (first time I slept in a different room from S since i couldn;t take AC/getting up at night to feed her) and then S fell ill again this time with cough and cold. That coupled with high tension at work (the US recession is taking a toll at work and everyone is carrying out reviews etc across the board which adds up to a lot work) which means lots of conference calls throughout the day and no rest (i miss my afternoon nap) So finally getting a break at home. Today we left S for the first time with myparents and went for a movie. Surprisingly I called up only once to check on her. Then my parents got S along to my aunt;s place where we joined for lunch. More kids there and more for S to play with. The hubby also introduced S to the dog (i caught him trying to make S ride the dog and lost my cool then!!) . I think S is getting slightly possessive now- when we got to my aunt's place she started crying when she saw us and then went only to the hubby and didn;t come to me for at least 10 mins!
The break from work is good, only S has got a bad cold and her appetite is poor, am getting stressed about her not eating well, but she is playing a lot and crawling/cruising all over the place so I guess not to worry too much and try try try again.
We have taken a week off and going to both parents house for 4 days each. And a well deserved holiday it is. Last month has been really stressful- first S was unwell for about a week, loss of appetite, high fever; then I got tonsilitis and was completely out of sorts for a week (first time I slept in a different room from S since i couldn;t take AC/getting up at night to feed her) and then S fell ill again this time with cough and cold. That coupled with high tension at work (the US recession is taking a toll at work and everyone is carrying out reviews etc across the board which adds up to a lot work) which means lots of conference calls throughout the day and no rest (i miss my afternoon nap) So finally getting a break at home. Today we left S for the first time with myparents and went for a movie. Surprisingly I called up only once to check on her. Then my parents got S along to my aunt;s place where we joined for lunch. More kids there and more for S to play with. The hubby also introduced S to the dog (i caught him trying to make S ride the dog and lost my cool then!!) . I think S is getting slightly possessive now- when we got to my aunt's place she started crying when she saw us and then went only to the hubby and didn;t come to me for at least 10 mins!
The break from work is good, only S has got a bad cold and her appetite is poor, am getting stressed about her not eating well, but she is playing a lot and crawling/cruising all over the place so I guess not to worry too much and try try try again.
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