No time for a detailed post as there is tons of work to be finished in office before i am off on leave from next week, as well as packing/shopping for gifts, last minutes stuff for S and us to be done.
Very excited as I'm getting a new car today and this is my first new car for myself. I drove my parents car when i was younger, and then got my husband's hand me down car and then a used car from my office (no complaints though since i am a bad driver and driving used cars at least doesn't give me tension about driving extra carefully).
anyway today - 13 years after i got my drivers license and 9 years after i started working i am getting my very own new car-a silver Skoda Fabia which i chose myself! am most excited
Other updates- S is unwell with a cough. We kept the AC on all night a couple of days back and I think the room became too cold and S always kicks off her blanket during the night. Last night was bad as S kept coughing and couldn't sleep comfortbaly. Her appeitite has also gone down- probably not getting a good tase with the cough and possible sore throat, but touch wood she has not got a cold yet.
Oh and I've got hooked onto the Twilight book series by Stephenie Meyer. Yes i know its for teenagers and its about vampire love stories, but i find them really addictive (have finished two books within a week and that means reading till 1:30 in the morning). Anyways not buying any more books till the trip is done.
The search for S playschool continues- unfortunately no good news near my new place. Tempted not to think about it till my holiday is done.
Off now to complete a note at work..meeting my bro for lunch (he's in town)which is such a good change since we have no family here.
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Friday, April 17, 2009
3 day weekends…what a relief..
Had a series of 3-day weekends recently which were eagerly awaited, much deserved (in my view) and used to the maximum level possible. The first weekend we just chilled out on Friday, on Saturday we met up with my friends at a grill restaurant for lunch for a belated birthday celebration – we ended up taking S along though the whole idea of having a lunch out was that she could stay back with the maids and wouldn’t be uncomfortable in the restaurant (being restricted to her seat for 1- hours). But my friend decided to bring her son along and I thought S would also enjoy meeting everyone and playing (not really, but I guess maybe interacting?) with my friend’s son. Lunch was good fun and we managed to make it home for a good nap in the afternoon (my favorite part of weekends!). On Sunday we went to Vie (a restaurant overlooking the beach) for brunch. The food was terrible (we are not going to eat there again) but the ambience was excellent. There were some sofas overlooking the sea on which we relaxed and enjoyed our wine/beer. We could see kids playing the water and while the sea was not azure blue or at all blue in the least I really enjoy watching waves break over the shore and also the sound of the waves. S also enjoyed the aero planes flying past- its very close to the airport and we could see planes every 5 mins. She gets all excited when she sees planes and here she could see them flying away into the horizon- so she was jumping up on the sofa and making excited noises- I think she wanted to tell us something..
There was also a meaow cat (what we call cat) which came right up to us- S found that also really exciting and kept wanting to go and stroke the cat. I am quite scared of all animals and was terrified that the cat would scratch S so didn’t let her go very close to the cat. During the weekend we also managed to take S to the park near our house which has a duck pond, parrot cage, and also has turkeys, roosters, geese in the duck pond alongwith a duck and duckling family. S was very excited to see all these birds, and especially the rooster which was running on top of its cage and on the verge of jumping out on us.
The next weekend which was again a Friday holiday I spent looking at some playschools for S, shopping for clothes for S and for me (at one shop where we took S along, there is a play area for children and S was watching other kids playing there and also doing her own thing- putting some blocks into a bin etc, then suddenly a bigger girl hit her and S started crying…before I could intervene the maid who was minding the big girl, or rather not minding her adequately pulled her away and scolded her..i felt bad for S, I guess this was her first interaction with bully kids and she was too young to understand that she needs to defend herself..i read an interesting blog article on this which said you need to be the biggest advocate for your child and I guess I should have been around the playpen with her to ensure nobody bullied her instead of leaving her and going shopping and allowing her to be bullied…will be more careful next time..the hubby of course felt that S should have hit the girl back but I guess S is too young). We managed lunch out on Sunday at our favourite restaurant where S sat next to her dad and read from his menu!
The last of the glorious 3 day weekends I spent with S at my parents place. I decided to pamper myself and go even if only for 3 days and had a great time. Firstly I slept late everyday shamelessly. Then I managed to take S for her first swim-she loved it. I had bought a tube and floaters for her but they were too big. But luckily the kids at the kiddie pool were friendly and allowed us to borrow an floating aeroplane where S can put sit and put her feet through it and I can push her so she is floating on the water. That was great fun and though she got splashed quite a bit by other kids she enjoyed watching them play in the water as well. I also managed to go to a bookshop and buy some books for myself after ages and conquently ended up spending most of this week finishing Twilight- yes I like teen vampire love stories (am now planning to watch the movie!) and now I have 3 more books to read in this series. My parents house also has a lot of kids stuff like cycles, ricking horse, pram , toys because my brothers kids keep coming there when my brothers are down from the States and S was happily occupied. We alos have two dogs and they are quite aggressive so they had to be tied when S was down there, but she was quite keen on going and touching them but I wouldn’t let her since they are huge boxers and while they are friendly if they jump on her she will definetly fall down and hurt herself badly. Maybe when she’s bigger.S is also quite attached to my mom and at one point refused to come to me when I was trying to put her to bed…but I just took the opportunity to catch up on mail, facebook, reading and sleeping.
Now we are planning our annual leave- that’s going to be quite a challenge since we are going to the US and visiting 3 cities there and the number of flights we are taking is quite crazy…but should be fun as S will get to meet her cousins!
There was also a meaow cat (what we call cat) which came right up to us- S found that also really exciting and kept wanting to go and stroke the cat. I am quite scared of all animals and was terrified that the cat would scratch S so didn’t let her go very close to the cat. During the weekend we also managed to take S to the park near our house which has a duck pond, parrot cage, and also has turkeys, roosters, geese in the duck pond alongwith a duck and duckling family. S was very excited to see all these birds, and especially the rooster which was running on top of its cage and on the verge of jumping out on us.
The next weekend which was again a Friday holiday I spent looking at some playschools for S, shopping for clothes for S and for me (at one shop where we took S along, there is a play area for children and S was watching other kids playing there and also doing her own thing- putting some blocks into a bin etc, then suddenly a bigger girl hit her and S started crying…before I could intervene the maid who was minding the big girl, or rather not minding her adequately pulled her away and scolded her..i felt bad for S, I guess this was her first interaction with bully kids and she was too young to understand that she needs to defend herself..i read an interesting blog article on this which said you need to be the biggest advocate for your child and I guess I should have been around the playpen with her to ensure nobody bullied her instead of leaving her and going shopping and allowing her to be bullied…will be more careful next time..the hubby of course felt that S should have hit the girl back but I guess S is too young). We managed lunch out on Sunday at our favourite restaurant where S sat next to her dad and read from his menu!
The last of the glorious 3 day weekends I spent with S at my parents place. I decided to pamper myself and go even if only for 3 days and had a great time. Firstly I slept late everyday shamelessly. Then I managed to take S for her first swim-she loved it. I had bought a tube and floaters for her but they were too big. But luckily the kids at the kiddie pool were friendly and allowed us to borrow an floating aeroplane where S can put sit and put her feet through it and I can push her so she is floating on the water. That was great fun and though she got splashed quite a bit by other kids she enjoyed watching them play in the water as well. I also managed to go to a bookshop and buy some books for myself after ages and conquently ended up spending most of this week finishing Twilight- yes I like teen vampire love stories (am now planning to watch the movie!) and now I have 3 more books to read in this series. My parents house also has a lot of kids stuff like cycles, ricking horse, pram , toys because my brothers kids keep coming there when my brothers are down from the States and S was happily occupied. We alos have two dogs and they are quite aggressive so they had to be tied when S was down there, but she was quite keen on going and touching them but I wouldn’t let her since they are huge boxers and while they are friendly if they jump on her she will definetly fall down and hurt herself badly. Maybe when she’s bigger.S is also quite attached to my mom and at one point refused to come to me when I was trying to put her to bed…but I just took the opportunity to catch up on mail, facebook, reading and sleeping.
Now we are planning our annual leave- that’s going to be quite a challenge since we are going to the US and visiting 3 cities there and the number of flights we are taking is quite crazy…but should be fun as S will get to meet her cousins!
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Too tired to think
Lately I’ve been feeling too tired, and I feel bad since its been having an effect on the time I spend with S, my interactions with the hubby (now mostly is this done, is that done, why are you not doing this….) and my basic frame of mind.
I seriously need to figure out why I am so tired – this has been going for some time now but two incidents which played out over the last few days have really brought things into perspective...
Last two days S was crying while doing potty and I just didn’t make the connection that she could have a rash. The hubby (who is much more chilled out) and of course not bogged down by the everyday routine, was just with her for 10 mins and realized it. I feel like such a lazy, bad mother..
When hubby said he was unwell yesterday, and was to stay home in the old house the next day,; I shouted at him for not telling me earlier since I had moved half the stuff to the new house and how I would now need to call up all the maids asking them to come to the existing house, instead of asking him how he felt and what was the problem
I have generally become very irritatable and short tempered about most things and instead of appreciating my time with S, I keep whining to the hubby about how tough it is to manage house (2 houses!!) and work and baby and how he is not doing anything blah blah blah…
These are the things which I figured are making me more tired and I plan to have a good shot at tackling them..
After S sleeps I spend about ½ hour doing stuff around the house and then another 45 mins reading. Considering that S sleeps at 11 and gets up dot at 7 am this means I get only about 6 hours sleep average which is difficult to sustain (now been more than 14 months since I got a full nights sleep). Need to get these done sometime during the day.
I wake up at least 2-3 times every night whenever S cries or wakes up. This needs to stop.. as I cannot get back to sleep quickly each time. We need to gradually get S used to sleeping in her own cot and sleeping through the night- now usually halfway through the night she cries and then I take her onto our bed.
Shifting the house every week is also very tiring- I need to take about a full car trunk load of stuff back and fro every time and this is tiring to pack, carry, unload, repack etc etc. Will just have to become more efficient with what we have at each place
Stop worrying about what S is eating , doing etc etc and spend more time playing and talking to her. When I worry about her eating I get more irritiable as well. I have decided to take S along with me to my mom’s place for the 3 day weekend coming up and since this will involve a flight there and back and maybe two dinners alone at the airport it should help me become less fussed
I also want to take a break and have someone else pamper me for a change, and more importantly not have to worry about the house being cleaned, food being prepared, rushing home every afternoon to see if S is ok. Am going home for the long weekend …yippee
Also my schedule is very hectic nowadays- morning is S’s milk, potty, then bath, then prepare her breakfast, then get ready for office while the maids feed her, rush to office, rush home for lunch, back to office, then back home, take S to park, give her dinner, play with her, then our dinner, then her milk, then play, then S sleep, then finally at 11 p.m. I get some time to myself. I think it has become tiring because a) I get very stressed if I am not able to leave from work in time to take S to the park- maybe I should set a target for doing this every alternate day otherwise it can get very difficult, and b) since I gave our smaller car to my brother I have been traveling a lot by auto- up and down twice a day, in the heat and near our office autos are not available easily. Now we are getting another car (yippee) so that should make things more relaxed
Also it’s a state of mind. I guess I just need to take things a bit lightly from now….
I seriously need to figure out why I am so tired – this has been going for some time now but two incidents which played out over the last few days have really brought things into perspective...
Last two days S was crying while doing potty and I just didn’t make the connection that she could have a rash. The hubby (who is much more chilled out) and of course not bogged down by the everyday routine, was just with her for 10 mins and realized it. I feel like such a lazy, bad mother..
When hubby said he was unwell yesterday, and was to stay home in the old house the next day,; I shouted at him for not telling me earlier since I had moved half the stuff to the new house and how I would now need to call up all the maids asking them to come to the existing house, instead of asking him how he felt and what was the problem
I have generally become very irritatable and short tempered about most things and instead of appreciating my time with S, I keep whining to the hubby about how tough it is to manage house (2 houses!!) and work and baby and how he is not doing anything blah blah blah…
These are the things which I figured are making me more tired and I plan to have a good shot at tackling them..
After S sleeps I spend about ½ hour doing stuff around the house and then another 45 mins reading. Considering that S sleeps at 11 and gets up dot at 7 am this means I get only about 6 hours sleep average which is difficult to sustain (now been more than 14 months since I got a full nights sleep). Need to get these done sometime during the day.
I wake up at least 2-3 times every night whenever S cries or wakes up. This needs to stop.. as I cannot get back to sleep quickly each time. We need to gradually get S used to sleeping in her own cot and sleeping through the night- now usually halfway through the night she cries and then I take her onto our bed.
Shifting the house every week is also very tiring- I need to take about a full car trunk load of stuff back and fro every time and this is tiring to pack, carry, unload, repack etc etc. Will just have to become more efficient with what we have at each place
Stop worrying about what S is eating , doing etc etc and spend more time playing and talking to her. When I worry about her eating I get more irritiable as well. I have decided to take S along with me to my mom’s place for the 3 day weekend coming up and since this will involve a flight there and back and maybe two dinners alone at the airport it should help me become less fussed
I also want to take a break and have someone else pamper me for a change, and more importantly not have to worry about the house being cleaned, food being prepared, rushing home every afternoon to see if S is ok. Am going home for the long weekend …yippee
Also my schedule is very hectic nowadays- morning is S’s milk, potty, then bath, then prepare her breakfast, then get ready for office while the maids feed her, rush to office, rush home for lunch, back to office, then back home, take S to park, give her dinner, play with her, then our dinner, then her milk, then play, then S sleep, then finally at 11 p.m. I get some time to myself. I think it has become tiring because a) I get very stressed if I am not able to leave from work in time to take S to the park- maybe I should set a target for doing this every alternate day otherwise it can get very difficult, and b) since I gave our smaller car to my brother I have been traveling a lot by auto- up and down twice a day, in the heat and near our office autos are not available easily. Now we are getting another car (yippee) so that should make things more relaxed
Also it’s a state of mind. I guess I just need to take things a bit lightly from now….
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