A, our darling baby daughter joined us on the 10th of February. She turns one month tomorrow, and how the days have flown by. The birth story is a long episode and will take another post but suffice it to say it was not I how had expected it to be!
Handling two kids is really a handful, but i luckily have the support of my mom and a full time baby maid. End of this month i will be leaving for Bangalore with my mom and the two kids and am there for two months, by which time i should have learnt to manage two kids on my own a bit better hopefully.
S seems quite happy with the new arrival and keeps kissing her, pulling her 'chubby cheeks' and patting her. She helps out with bringing the nappy and soap and shampoo for bath and keeps asking to comb the baby's hair. But her other behaviour has become quite terrible and i feel she is showing her unhappiness with the new kid getting the attention in other places. She starts crying and wailing loudly for the smallest of things- if we ask her to get off the swing (we have a swing now at home- Daddy's gift for S on her second birthday, she loves it and spends at least an hour on it everyday), or dont show her Nemo for the 100th time in a week, or if her Ajji has lunch instead of watching Nemo with her- really small things which she would have been ok with earlier. She has also started wailing to go and come back from school(but luckily over the last few days that has got better). So far we have been able to manage my mom (her Ajji) looking after S during all the feeds - in fact my mom only looks after her most of the time since i need to give so much time to A. But today my mom had to go out for sometime and that also coincided with A's feed time. When i got up from the living room where i was sitting with S to feed A, she started crying and stamping her feet, insiting that i should carry her, I carried her for 5 minutes and then A started crying louder and louder and I tried to explain to S that see A is crying , i need to feed her , why dont you sit next to mama and read this book, but she insisted that i carry her, andcontinued to sit ony my lap. Finally i put S down and she howled for some time before the maid took her to the swing to distract her. Hope S grows out of this soon, or i'm going to be a very tired and upset mother soon!
A is quite different from S. Firstly she looks more like the hubby whereas S looks like me. She is also a night baby- most nights she is awake from 2:30-4:30 feeding and playing and sleeps through large parts of the day. S had got the day-night routine right from day one and used to play quite a bit during the day and wake in the nights only for the feeds. Also A is quite aggressive in her demands from day one and insists on being carried on the lap most of the day even when she’s awake, while S used to play quite happily in the Moses basket by herself. Anyway I now know most of the late night shows on tv and have caught two three movies with subtitles running at 3 in the morning! Wonder when this cycle will reverse- its manageable now since my mom looks after both the kids in the morning and I get sleep till 8:30-9 am.
Other updates in brief
We celebrated S second birthday on the 6th with a Jerry cake, a swing and motorbike from her dad, earrings from me (ears not pierced yet though!), earrings from Ajji and flowers and new dress from her Bua. Decided not to have a party and call other kids since I was not sure whether I would be in the nursing home or at home, and anyway S doesn’t really play games at birthday parties, or interact that much with the other kids- maybe for her third birthday she will herself be excited about a party, and cake and friends
We played Holi this year after a long time. It was S first Holi experience and she really enjoyed playing with the pichkari (its got lights and she still plays with it), and the water gun. WE played within the building and there was another kid (muchy older) who kept throwing water on S and the hubby helped S in spraying him back with water. S was not very thrilled with the colours being put on her face so we put only a bit on her face and more on her arms!
We moved house, sold our old place and rented a new one. Two main goals- one to move into a better apartment (achieved) and two to reduce the ties to Bombay ( I don’t like this city). The packing and unpacking was quite hectic but my mom and dad were there to help, otherwise it would have been very tiring in the ninth month. The new apartment is quite nice- the security is good, the neighbours are friendly (one of them came over with a packet of brownies to welcome us) and best of all, there is a girl of S age in the flat below us- so far the interaction has not been the best given S mood swings and temper tantrums, but am hoping it would improve over time
For New Years this year we went to Kashid, a beach resort about 3 hours from Bombay to a friends place. It was with old college friends and well worth the effort (driving there and back over two days) and S enjoyed all the attention being the only kid there! My friend has a dog- and S kept feeding him biscuits, running after him etc. My friends kept her well entertained pointing out flowers, birds, giving her various creams to play with (she loves that) and she played in the beach and water with the hubby. New years night we went to my friend's parents friend place where there was another girl of S age, so some time went in playing with her toys, running around with her etc.
Back to the two kids now!
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